Playing Hard-to-Get: Comparative Advantage in Dating?


  • Xiaoge Meng



Playing Hard-to-Get; Dating Strategy; Comparative Advantage in Dating; Dating Psychology.


People often want success in everything, including dating. Hence, the strategy for dating was suggested--the method of playing hard-to-get. It spread rapidly with countless tutorials and posts on how to execute the plan. Despite its popularity, this paper examines the strategy's validity through experiments and refers to previous studies in the field. One hundred single heterosexual participants, each date with three opposite-sex confederates, are then asked to record their experience. The three confederates are asked to perform various levels of playing hard-to-get by the duration of the playing hard-to-get tactic during the date with the participant. Therefore, the participant would respond to each level differently, providing the comparison between the levels of playing hard-to-get and their effectiveness. The expected result of the experiment is that the moderate hard-to-get confederate gains an advantage over the other confederates. Therefore, by using tactics of playing hard-to-get moderately, people would obtain a comparative advantage in the dating world.


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How to Cite

Meng, X. (2022). Playing Hard-to-Get: Comparative Advantage in Dating?. BCP Social Sciences & Humanities, 20, 14–17.